Thoughts #3 — "Being Loved is Better than Loving Someone", is it true?

Written on February 22nd, 2019

As an adult, we often hear this, “being loved is better than loving someone”. But do we actually agree with this statement? Is being loved better than loving someone, or vice versa? Which one do you usually experience, being loved by someone or loving someone? Do you feel confused already?

Relax, you’re not alone. I guess some people will also feel confused about this, especially when you’re asked to write about it. To be honest, I also have no idea to write something about this. I guess I’m not wise enough or probably I’m not ready to think about all that stuff. But let’s give it a try.

Apparently for some people, being loved by someone is better than loving someone. Because there’s a big difference between loving and being loved. Loving someone makes a person want to do anything, even if it’s hard and impossible to do in order to make the person love us back. While for those who are being loved, they will feel blessed and so happy like they’re on the cloud nine.

But if the person isn’t mature yet, they will also feel superior that they are on a higher position in the relationship. Sometimes it will cause personal egotism that will hurt the person who loves them. But in my opinion, being loved by someone will make us more grateful and appreciative of someone’s feeling towards us, so it depends on the person that’s being loved.

Actually it’s really confusing to choose between loving someone and being loved by someone. Because I think a true love consists of two persons who fall in love with each other and are willing to have give-and-take in their relationship. I’m also a firm believer that in any relationship there has to be a compromise that comes from the two persons, not only one of them.

Because if it only comes from one of the spouses, then they will just hurt each other and the relationship won’t be able to survive in the long term. In other words, it’s better to love and to be loved in the equal amount. Of course, it is a difficult thing to find, but we can always build it. As a sweet closing, I'm gonna use this famous quote by T. Tolis.

“To love someone is nothing.

To be loved by someone is something.

But to love and to be loved in return, that’s everything.”